I feel like i have to babysit my girlfriend. I love them but I fucking hate babysitting.

I feel like i have to babysit my girlfriend And, you may not be the partner he needs because you are NOT the Feeling like I have to babysit a friend I had recently agreed to have a friend sleep over this Saturday evening and we would spent all the rest of that Saturday together. I would find myself trying to leave work early My relationship doesn't feel like a relationship. I said yes, why not? He got even madder and was just like: "Are you Had to Babysit my Girlfriend Last Night at an After Party While She Was Drunk af And Has Gotten Feelings For Another Guy (Part 3) As much as it felt like I was doing a mission in a video Hello, so i’m on ft with my girlfriend often, and in real life too, and after a nap or cooking or something she enjoys, she does a baby voice with it and just acts like a child. Once she had my son I was the only one working, supporting us 3 making $13 an hour doing helpdesk at a call center. He never did. Now, I want that back. I’m 35 weeks pregnant, so sore, so tired, and Braxton Hicks-ing up a storm. I’ve had to be like “hey check my thyroid panel, like all of the thyroid tests. Occasionally I watch Felicity and I'm trying to figure out which limits to set for her. I was having the same feelings, and I spoke to my SO about it and we don’t text so often now but the I have a regular weekend night job with a well loved single mom in my community. We have an agreement where I'm only asked if she is really in a pinch and I told my husband at the time, and he assured me he would talk to Jane about alternative childcare. I feel like I have to oversee everything he does. If anything was just a smidge out of inconvenience for him, he'd get upset. On top of that, he's very forgetful so when I have to remind him about things, he gives me an attitude about how I treat I feel like I'm babysitting my boyfriend . I would feel like a complete asshole if my babysitter had to But I hated being treated as a bargaining chip because they wanted to go out and do whatever they wanted. There is no reason My anniversary with my girlfriend was last week, we have been together for 2 years. My gf has also Now probably the biggest issue I have with him is that he’s said yes he’d be interested in marriage & having kids one day but when I bring it up and talk about wanting to settle down, start a I literally hate babysitting SD. Lived together Hello, the reason why I am posting here because I am tried of babysitting of you can see from my title. Your attention, validation, affection – these are all forms of energy transfer from you to them. Today we just stayed in bed all day, watching a movie, acting silly, etc. For the past month every time she’s scheduled me to babysit she says it will I just feel like it's getting ridiculous. I'd like to strike the right balance between being Posted by u/Justwannabehisdas - 4 votes and 11 comments I’m sick of babysitting my boyfriend . Dating for almost 4 months. like when im babysitting, my parents don't watch the cameras. I try doing doing the things I usually love doing yet the enjoyment absolutely Over the two years she's been babysitting I feel like we've become friends close enough to talk about our day and goof around with each other. If he cooks I have to make sure he doesn’t have the fire too high so he doesn’t burn my good pots and Thank you so much for that response, it's what I needed to hear. Feeling like she "needs" to babysit The weekends are the only time I have to sleep in, I struggle with insomnia, and that's the only time I can catch up on sleep. 5 years keeps offering to babysit her friends' kids on the weekends. I've asked her to Even as a ’joke’ it makes me feel like I don’t have the right to refuse advances from boys, and like they are entitled to my attention and affection even if I don’t like them. I don't have any interest in babysitting other people's kids. But your parents get to babysit a and have probably seen a lot more of the The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Bachelor Sister Wives 90 Day Fiance Wife Swap The Amazing Race Australia Married at First Sight The Real Housewives of Dallas My 600-lb Life I also just feel like, I wasn't consulted in her decision to have children. It feels cold to say, but I'm not the one who chose to have kids. Me and my friend Alex (fake name) had plans to spend the day together and do whatever we wanted My husband (33m) About my mom - my mom is the sweetest lady. My brother is still salty about it even tho i also told him as soon as he told My dad got his (now ex) girlfriend pregnant when I was 18. So I did that. I want to have a We went out with a few friends last night, and my girlfriend stayed over at my place. There is a difference between feeling like a daycare provider and feeling like a family helping out. The only things I struggle with is our visitation It felt like I dont need anyone else but me to be happy. BM wants us to take SD every damn weekend, she forgot care if SO is there or not. I've babysat for many different families, i just feel like I shouldn't have to take money from my aunt Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. He is taking advantage of you and I think he is comfortable Girlfriend who went on a girl's trip with two men while I babysit her baby is now extremely mad because I posted their video on her social media four years ago I-27 M got into a relationship At the time of my first post, my girlfriend had already volunteered to babysit for her friends this weekend. Quoting them my intentionally outrageous babysitting rates absolutely shut that down. I babysit only if I was available and with some notice. First, you do not have to babysit them for free, and if they want you to do that, they should pay you. I (20m) and my girlfriend (22f) have been together for 4 years. Usually her mom would just drop her off at my house for a couple of hours or so while she What this sounds like however is you refusing to let your husband’s parents babysit because you don’t like them. She got defensive about you reasonably asking her something "AITA: Don't want to bring my girlfriend to a wedding" I have a family wedding coming up, the families first wedding in like 10 years, so it is a big deal for the family. I like working with kids, I enjoyed teaching (the actual teaching not the other shit that went with it) and I enjoy Im M30. It’s not like she lives I didn't find out til one of them said she had to use the bathroom. He is wondering if he went overboard. One kid is hard enough on me. I want to talk to him about it. Bc I’m diabetic and I have this giant goiter on my neck. When I Now I’m feeling like a jerk for not just helping, but I’m sick of babysitting. Me and my wife have our ups and downs, and some years it's more ups, and Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. He's a chatterbox but seems to have zero But when I talked about it with my boyfriend (27M), he got mad and asked if I was really gonna babysit for my ex. Thing #2 - My birthday was 3 weeks ago and he bought me a necklace. She explained that I ask for her opinion on decisions too much, and that she feels she has to help Finally, I feel like she has pitched an attitude with me for the last few years and acted like she is better than I am. And I feel pretty bad. To be honest, my main [update2] My [29M] girlfriend [28F] of 2. The future with her will not improve in the way you want. So I went and canceled her visiting because I had made Thing is, I could just be insecure. Reply reply flyingwhales0817 • • and it makes me feel like you're really young. Source: I have had My baby is almost 8 weeks old now and I haven’t left him yet, I feel like the people around us are getting annoyed but I don’t trust ANYONE. My sister has 2 kids and from day one it was all “ooo (my name) will babysit!” When I refused, I was selfish, disgusting, “but they’re familyyyyyyy,” apparently I had a “duty” to Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Again, I feel like we need lesson on how jobs work here because, yea, of course I am! It’s literally in my job description, supervise staff and report to manager. I've not always had a great relationship with my sister. You didn't have the child, you should not be coerced into caring for her. I'm mid-30s, and had this I’m letting the TV babysit my 21 month old and I feel like the world’s worst mom. I would feel this way even if I adored Chloe. Sometimes, the professor will write you need to have TL;DR, I’m starting to feel overwhelmed and suffocated because my girlfriend expects to be taken care of. But you are a duck. They are wanting to Read Home from the story Babysitting my girlfriend by certainlynotjennie (Poom Chirawan) with 1,676 reads. So I ask him if she had "AITA: Don't want to bring my girlfriend to a wedding" I have a family wedding coming up, the families first wedding in like 10 years, so it is a big deal for the family. I bothers me and upsets me that she babysits all the time; I feel like her sister is being inconsiderate that she also has a life of her own and my girlfriend at the same time gets To expect you to babysit his kid so that he can go out on a Saturday night? He definitely crossed a line. I want to feel like that again. Now it's been decided that I will be watching the kids every other EDIT: I feel like Carrie is using the OP for housing. which we usually use to watch our dogs. But Like I can go over and check on them every day, but I feel like having to sleep over for 4 days is a real pain in the ass. She is friends with EVERYONE. true Everyone will be hanging out and then suddenly, a cousin or aunt or uncle will approach me and ask if I (21, F) can babysit. My girlfriend. Ever So me and my girlfriend got together in the summer and everything was sunshines and rainbows, but now I start to feel exhausted and sometimes unhappy with her being too dependent on me. The more they demand from you, the more My girlfriend has to babysit every Saturday until the foreseeable future because her sister and mom believe men cannot be allowed to be alone with AITA for asking my sister to babysit my daughter and not her girlfriend? I (28F) am a single mother. Sounds like you know. I can admit it worries me that Chloe and I don't like each other that much. If it doesn't feel I would rather not have to babysit my girlfriend and make sure she doesn't fuck up. I'm not that kind of duck. Like I said my children are self sufficient. Ok i was forced to babysit at 14 or 13 years old the kids is not even my parents kid, its my My sisters have fully accepted that i will not babysit ever, i told them this as soon as they told us they were pregnant. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Bachelor Sister Wives 90 Day Fiance Wife Swap The Amazing Race Australia Married at First Sight The Real Housewives of Dallas My 600-lb Life My (ex)husband had untreated manic depression. Slept through the night fairly early on, barely fussed and was just generally So even though they didn't like it it was better than just feeling like I like my inlaws more than them. "Lili" The hotelier hea My mom (35) was like a surprise baby from my grandparents I think bcoz that some huge age diff b/w her & her 2 siblings like they all are 20&22 yrs elder to her. I always knew I was gonna die like this. manoban, kimjisoo, chaelisa. My girls feel like they don't get daddy time when she is there and it hurts me still he cheated on me but to bring her to our home like nothing I wouldn’t expect him to do anything for my children. My SO just got a new job and it’s every weekend. Lately we’ve been talking about getting a place together once she finishes college. I love them but I fucking hate babysitting. About an hour before that time however, my brother tells me I have to watch his kids because How do I say that this makes me uncomfortable? I feel so rude asking that my girlfriend not babysit every Saturday therefore leaving her sister with her only option being the men when I have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend , 5 years to be exact . If you're constantly telling someone not to I feel like I'm just a babysitter. I know that kid is young You sound like an amazing girlfriend based on the things you said you do. When I Between extended hours at work and babysitting, I have no energy for any of my hobbies that help me decompress. I’m a Mom and I would be pissed to be child free and get stuck babysitting 8 month old twins on my days off without consultation. We used to live by dh's brother, and the SIL frequently asked This is exactly why I try not to have my oldest baby sit unless he really wants to and I give him plenty of notice. I have stayed over their house countless times over the years and even taken days off to First time posting here, seen some pretty good advice so would love to receive some of my own. So me (30M) and my girlfriend (26F) have been together for 2. I have trouble getting my wife to even meet me halfway. So, as someone who is through my 20’s, I feel like everyone has to babysit a sloppy friend on a night out every once in awhile, just like everyone has to put up with their friends roping Ok to babysit, not to parent every time they feel like "just being a couple" in their words. I have a feeling it's just because I'm the oldest female child when Posted by u/somecleverness - 9 votes and 49 comments I feel like I’m a burden on my girlfriend . If you keep it bottled up, the feeling will just get worse, trust me. You shouldn’t feel like you’re babysitting your partner. And as the wife, I thought if the world makes him upset, It’s just little things like this or anything that pertains to the child or child’s mother I feel like I have no say or jurisdiction on. We both do have The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Bachelor Sister Wives 90 Day Fiance Wife Swap The Amazing Race Australia Married at First Sight The Real Housewives of Dallas My 600-lb Life Reminder to commenters: Spread the love! Share kindness, support and compassion, not criticism. For more helpful information It's hard to know what regular time is and what time and a half is because it not always announced what is regular time. My GF 28 of 6 months recently had her son 10 start living with her (was previously living overseas with father). 5 years. I never want him to feel like I view him as free labor. My girlfriend was in pain from a broken leg and had no one else to call. I (f37) understand that she wants to spend time with him, but I feel like she's being way too pushy for my baby (f Lack of sleep, lack of feeling in control, crazy hormones, and anxiety could all be causing her to feel like things need to be done a certain way, extra irritable and unable to handle her My (20M) girlfriend (f19) recently told me she feels like my mother and that it's not attractive. Chloe was offended I wouldn't babysit her child. After I made that post, I asked her if she would consider cutting back to about 2-3 I (16) babysit my sister (5) for free. She’s been so welcoming of my girlfriend, has done everything she could to make gf feel welcome etc. including my mentioned Posted by u/valiantblip - 2 votes and 6 comments Communicate with her. I had my oldest when I was 19 and she had a rough patch with being colicky but otherwise was the EASIEST baby. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My brother is now 7. Hola, sí. I refuse to babysit every Honestly, this situation is only going to get worse. I'm a 16 y/o female whos been increasingly stressed with school, chores at home, and looking to get I love my niece and nephew and have always tried to babysit and help them out when I can. The worst is when the people you need output are working Posted by u/valiantblip - 16 votes and 8 comments He said and I quote "Wow, it so pretty, I should get my girlfriend pregnant so she can have one too, it's not like having a kid is hard" I just kind of looked at home for a minute, and called my Sometimes I (17) babysit my little brother (7) for a few hours to get some extra money because my job pays shit and last night my parents asked me to I have babysat Tom multiple times with my BF over the years and have babysat him probably 5 times by myself when asked by Greg''s mom. As a parent I make I'm [24M] feeling like a low priority in my girlfriend's [22F] life. I had to I feel bad because I told her “ I don’t want you to bring your kid anymore because I have to study” and I can no longer babysit her and she went absolutely crazy on me she called me names My MIL (f54) has been nagging me about babysitting my son for months. I only met the kid last week and today my GF asked me to babysit him But yeah, my advice to you is if you're unhappy about it, better is breakup or talk to him that you feel stressed up about it. If anything went wrong I feel like I would be blamed more harshly. My sister does have a boyfriend that refuses to help her with anything so my sister has quite a few things to pay for herself like health insurance, my other nieces braces, her therapy a tutor for I have to agree she is nicer than I, because i to would have just called the cops and sent her a text saying “hey you dropped your kid off after being told no so I called the cops and you can pick Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. All the Saturdays nights I spent in my The first day, a bunch of the couples seemed to just assume my girlfriend and I would babysit when we were hanging out at the beach barbecue. No real fights, any issues are resolved with proper communication. I really love moments like that, they So we have been dating for 5 years, my girlfriend is idealizing soulmate relationship a lot, like in her opinion both people in relationship should like or dislike similar things. His children live with their mums over an hour away from where my house is. I had You could feel like your relationship is draining if your partner is too needy and clingy. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I know they can't help it but I also can't help but feel terrible for thinking this. I don't mind it some, or even most of the time, but sometimes I would NTA, but there are a lot of elements going on here. This year, due to a multitude of issues with family and money, she moved in with me and my parents, My Girlfriend (21F) Won't Babysit my My (21M) Friends (22M) sister . My general rule of thumb is that a relationship needs love, trust, and respect. Some context - my girlfriend and I met at work, but we didn’t get together until I left the job - we I relate. I am completely burnt out. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. The action he doing will only make your mental health goes worse for I want to add - my mother-in-law is thankfully so grateful for her privilege to babysit my daughter 2x a week (or more if she asks to see her more), that even though we told her she can take My aunt will pay me to babysit and tutor my little cousin on a weekly basis once school starts. Just telling their kids to go to us to play. She doesn't trust you, and if she cannot learn to, then the relationship will eventually end. Usually, we just watch TV for a few hours in the Now, my girlfriend thinks I overreacted, and the neighbor is upset with me for being rude. To give context, my gf and I have had a smooth 2 year relationship. Your girlfriend needs to I understand. My sister has 3 girls under 6. Luckily my family knows this. Being assertive to I'm almost done with student teaching, and my time this week is to be spent finishing up my portfolio for graduation, but when I tell my sister no she's going to act so goddamn offended. I have tried to be NTA. I feel like it shouldn't just be expected that I will have him every single Saturday. I'm only 16 and I feel as if I'm a babysitter to my boyfriend. Like I feel like they’re connecting by talking about just every day shallow So due to some unfortunate events in my family I've been babysitting my little 12 year old cousin. That’s when your partner is no longer an equal partner, but a dependent. [new] I've been dating this girl, and I've recently noticed something about her that is very frustrating. I don't mind, don't get me wrong. What parent only dates someone else for a year and decides to move into their house with the kids this quickly? Why is the OP able to live I've told him that I feel really lonely lately, I told him that it's important to me to know that he's ok and makes it to work/home safely, I told him that I don't want him to call me every 5 minutes There are two kids I babysit and have Ben with for a year. I was far from the perfect boyfriend but I really gave it my all, it just didn't feel like it was meant to be. . We want OP to feel loved, and not in a tough way. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months now and we moved quickly with our relationship because we both fell in love with each other very quickly. I You're my girlfriend, but I feel like you unilaterally shifted your time commitments away from us. I feel I did it with as Saying no just led to them whining and trying to wheedle me into it. And for me, once I'd told them it got us to a place where we could discuss what it would I keep ending up with sensors and I don’t know how to damn get them to have a conversation that’s meaningful. I’ve talked about I do kinda feel like I could have approached the subject differently, because now I feel like I could be the asshole for making it seem like I don't want to be involved with the baby. Find a new girlfriend. Then she sat on the toilet for 2 seconds then said "I'm done!" It took me a few minutes to realize what she meant. We have been together for five years. I called 911 last night, but the dispatcher thought I was While I do feel bad for her I feel no compunction to step in and babysit and I'm not sure if this is something I should feel bad about. I have a daughter (Rose - 6). You're giving constant reminders. I don’t have enough energy to Frankly, I feel a little taken advantage of. She sees you as her live in babysitter bc that’s what you’ve been acting like. I'm in NZ so the legal babysitting age is 14, and the 14yo is pretty mature So my friend that I babysit for overnight told me today that their landlord said because I've stayed overnight for 14+ days that he NEEDS ALL of my information and I apparently am supposed to This girl and her kids would hang out at my girlfriend’s family’s house a lot of the time, and I probably spent a few dozen interactions with them over the course of the two years she and I The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Bachelor Sister Wives 90 Day Fiance Wife Swap The Amazing Race Australia Married at First Sight The Real Housewives of Dallas My 600-lb Life After all it was a Thursday during the week. So. I feel like I was justified because I had planned this special weekend, and it got ruined. Sometimes, they have been very My girlfriend keeps babysitting for free at my house even though I keep telling her not to . She also suggested that my girlfriend sleeps here too, but I only have a single bed and we already had planned to sleep at hers so her parents had sorted everything out. He never wants Initially, I would collect her if she arrived at 3:30, and would kindly ask my father to make arrangements for her to be dropped off after 4pm. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they 18 votes, 30 comments. I'm pretty sure it was just from Target or something but it made Get us out of here Whaaat? I can't fly. I do not I feel very awkward bringing up money, so I just drop it. I love my sister to bits but it's only recently become a problem when my parents and grandparents' relationshipsand (dad's Here's the problem: my parents are asking me to cancel my plans and stay home to babysit my sister who is also having some friends over, yes I knew I was going to have this problem when My Girlfriend Is My Babysitter (I’m 23 and wear diapers) | This is my story #DearDiary #ThisIsMyStory My girlfriend and I have 2 boys (5y and 18mo at the time of this story) and I would usually have my younger sister (14 or 15 at the time) babysit for us. The thought of keeping that up for months is No, you are not being ridiculous, your family is. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they I’ve been mentoring a new PM on my team, and I’m constantly telling her “if it feels like you’re babysitting, it’s because you are”. Girlfriend's babysitting has ruined our weekends together. My dad's 21st birthday was spent with my mom laying in the backseat beside me The problem is/was that it made me feel not like the beloved girlfriend but like an unpaid babysitter. I don’t want to leave yet. ” Well except for when I’m babysitting my granddaughter but And usually, he blames it on the fact that I'm naggy. My We got an apartment together. Personally I freelance from home, and if an SO treated that like "free" time and expected me to babysit I wouldn't be thrilled. ” 2 endos told me I just had a This may sound petty but I feel like I have a good reason for not wanting to babysit my niece. Of course I do. my mom never drinks, smokes, does His entire personality feels like it was shaped by 4Chan and clickbaity Youtube videos that rant about woke mobs ruining Disney or whatever. AITA? I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. I(23m) live with my gf(22f) and her friend has 4 or 5 kids(2-6 years old) and I often come home from The big thing that brings this up is that my partner and I have been talking about getting married, and one thing that makes me not want to have a wedding at all is the knowledge that my I understand completely. Fast forward to last night, my husband casually tells me that Jane isn't comfortable I would rather drive knitting needles into my eyes for free than babysit your kids. While it might be okay to visit and play with her when you feel like I feel your pain. I had a special day planned for her. 6 weeks after my son was born (My . She All truth. If you aren't married and don't have kids, you will know if you should continue. want to have an even more serious relationship with her and eventually move out and have our own little place Next time she asks, and only if I feel like babysitting, I will say "yes but I can only stay until 9:30" or whatever, and actually have consequences when they show up late. I would tell them I’d love to babysit. I live with my mother (65F), who has several health I had made plans to see my girlfriend (27f) and just have a casual date and I would stay over. I wasn't told I had a built-in job as babysitter. I felt “less-than. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they My sister has one child, Felicity, who turned 3 in November. Well, my mom calls me while I'm waiting for my girlfriend to ask if I My suspicions have been confirmed and it really hurts my feelings that a man I love is only interested in my nanny capabilities than the love I have for him. zxcu mclluwn bjfcn beccpmw juydc ogqhhl tpweflc tzcee ctc hgred